That phrase…” I don’t necessarily agree with the gay “lifestyle” but I don’t condemn it either. I love all of my gay friends just like I love my straight friends.”

Something about this bothers me…. as a mom, as a christian, and as a straight woman.

At first this sounds like acceptance, but…..and there it is..there is that something! The simple fact that there is a” but” is a judgment of sorts.

And then the term “lifestyle”–since when is who someone is at the very core of their being a “lifestyle”? Is the fact that I am a straight woman a lifestyle? Would someone ever say to me…”You chose to live as a straight woman and that is your lifestyle” ? My lifestyle, by the way, is eclectic, part vegetarian, a little of this, a little of that, while still trying to be green and eco-friendly, and if you don’t agree with that “lifestyle”, well that I understand.

I have never once heard someone say to their straight friends…” I don’t necessarily agree with your lifestyle but I don’t condemn you either”. When did who anyone loves become a lifestyle anyway? It just IS.

But come to think of it, I am doing the very thing I’m talking about. Why is it we say straight for heterosexuals? Where did this come from? Is it some supposed ” being on the straight and narrow”? And if it is, that would certainly explain the narrow minded thinking of alot of heterosexuals.

As for me, I don’t feel straight…I feel curved, crooked, bent, flawed and perfectly imperfect. But for the record, if I had a choice, I would much prefer to be called gay, it sounds like a much nicer state of being.