A Gay Dad’s Letter to the Evangelical Christians Who Recruited Him When He Was Nine Years Old

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The headline pissed me off when I read it in my news feed.   “Evangelical Group Plans to Convert Children as Young As Five at Portland Parks”. As a dad, an interest group, any interest group, going after kids is unacceptable in my book.

As I read the article further, I found out that the evangelical group in question was the Child Evangelism Fellowship’s Good News Club. Suddenly, the brakes came to a screeching halt in my head. My parental outrage was not gone, but it suddenly was awash with a quick douse of memories.

The year was 1966 and I was nine years old. We lived in a little town on the coast of California. I say we, meaning my family, but one significant member was missing—my dad. He was stationed in Viet Nam, in the line of fire.

It was a year when I grew up significantly, and had to stand on my own in ways I had not previously in my young life. It was a year that I needed to believe, more that all else, that there was a God, that we were being watched over, and that everything was going to be all right. I did not have use for a realist view that for some families in other places things were not all right and tragedy was in the air.

Christianity was not a new thing for me, even then. I had attended Bible camp the year before, and held the mantra before me, “Jesus loves me, this I know.” I was still a good year or two away from feeling the sexual instincts that intellectually might counter that conviction.

One day at school, someone invited me to their home for “The Good News Club”. I am not typically a joiner, but felt compelled to go. When I informed my mother that I had gone, without asking, she grew concerned, made calls and investigated what it was all about.

What it was about for me, was education. I am sure there was some philosophical teaching there, but it was mostly a walk through of the Bible stories—all of them, not just the fable like ones pulled out of context. It included ones that were not conveniently explained like the walls of Jericho being toppled and families who did what were now seen as minor crimes being stoned. Through this information, I understood that the Bible was not a rule book, but an evolvement of human spiritual growth set in specific histories and cultures. I learned about Esther, and Job and Jonas and how David sent a man to be killed so he could marry his widow. I learned the names of the major prophets, and the minor prophets. Mostly I learned that I had the right to be as spiritual and as “saved” as anyone, no matter what my future intimate instincts might become.

So, now, flash forward to 2014, as I reflect on my experience of the past, recruited at nine years of age, I wish I could say that their current activities are healthy ones. With all that has happened over the last several decades, I can’t say that. This is my letter to them instead:

Dear Good News Club,

First, I want to thank you for the wonderful times you gave me as a child. You took a boy whose daddy was at war, and gave me hope. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I understand you are now targeting parks in Portland Oregon, looking to convert kids as young as five years old. You might think this letter is a vote of confidence, sadly, it is not.

I am extremely wary of your activities not because I fear that “The Good News Club” has changed per se, it likely has, but because Christianity itself, as practiced by so many in today’s age has changed. Core principles like the golden rule, the good Samaritan, loving one’s neighbor as one’s self and “judge not” are being completely ignored. “Turning the other cheek” has become having the right to throw the first punch and be protected under the misnomer “religious freedom”.

Where you taught me that the first chapter of the book of Romans was about idol worship, today it is construed to be solely about same sex intimacy. A story where Jesus defines divorce as only being available in cases of adultery, as it was practiced legally when I went to the Good News Club, is now been bastardized into being a declaration of opposite gender marriage only.

“The Good News” has become a message for those who meet the elite picture of a 1960s style family.  I got that message in 1966 because, that was who I was at the time and it is what my family looked like.

The message is no longer “good”, and not factual enough to be “news”. “The Good News” has been translated to become “One Mis-informed Message”, obsessed with maligning new family formations you do not understand.

I do not want my kids exposed to it. I do not want any kids exposed to it. I think of my sons at five. They were and are full of spirit and an amazing reservoir of common sense. They knew what love was, and more importantly, they knew how to express it.

When I thought of “good news” at that point in time, it would be whatever one of my boys whispered into my ear as I kissed them goodnight.

I am thinking back on my year with you in the Good News Club, and I remember a comment you quoted by Jesus.  “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. “ It was a concept that was echoed by another holy man, one named Black Elk of the Ogalala Sioux, who said “Grown men can learn from very little children for the hearts of the little children are pure. Therefore, the Great Spirit may show to them many things which older people miss.” Truth is truth.

If you insist in hanging out with kids at the Portland parks, Jesus, the Bible and the great spirit of the universe all are aligned, but, they would be telling you not to be there to convert anyone.

They would tell you that it is so you can be converted yourselves.


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About robw77

A single gay dad who cares. His story can be read here: http://www.imagaysingleparent.com/2013/02/02/rob/ and here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/31/rob-watson-gay-family_n_4689661.html
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10 Responses to A Gay Dad’s Letter to the Evangelical Christians Who Recruited Him When He Was Nine Years Old

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  2. allydavidstevens says:

    Ugh, and in my town no less. Nicely put, my friend. I will be on this lookout for this nonsense. The only thing that needs to be instilled in the minds of young children is that they are loved and that they should take good care of themselves and those around them.

  3. I wonder if the lessons of love and tolerance ever really were inherent in the Christian religion? Perhaps they are just more vocal today about that intolerance and the promotion of it.

    • earfirst says:

      Fascinating question. Inherent? Lots of good sayings about love, and a kind of egalitarianism in the Gospels and the Letters, several echoed from Jewish teachings.

      The ethnic toleration question pops up repeatedly in the Teacher’s brief personal career. The Samaritans, those looked-down-on hill people spared the Babylonian Captivity, are pointedly rehabilitated in the “good Samaritan” parable. The Syro-Phoenician woman asking healing for her daughter had that delicious repartee: “even the puppies eat of the crumbs under the table”, doubtless emboldened by a wink of irony when he pretends to chide her with “It’s not fitting to take the bread belonging to the children and toss it to the dogs.” The dogs (the calebs, “puppies”), clearly, are the non-Jews.

      Social toleration appears generally with his notorious practice of hanging with the underclass, including “defiling” his ritual purity by conversing with another Samaritan, the “woman at the well”. Particularly, there’s that despised tax-collector Zacchaeus, told to come down from the tree and prepare to host him.

      Any later Christian wanting “proof texts” to authorize Love and Toleration would have no lack of material, including oft-quoted passages from Paul on love.

      But then, practice often strays from precept after the best of teachers depart.

  4. Ben in Oakland says:

    Bravo for telling it like it is.

    Personally, I am very wary of adults hanging around public parks and approaching kids. You can google “youth minister + child molestation” and get an more of aqn earful than you might wish. I am also wary of the people who tell such outrageous lies as “Gays cannot reproduce so they must recruit” are also the people whose only means of “reproduction” is recruitment.

  5. Dr. Rex says:

    Reblogged this on It Is What It Is and commented:
    There isn’t A thing that should be instilled in a Brian this young. Children should be free to explore, of course with gentle guiding hands from their adults. Their brains will develop a well as the other parts of their anatomy in the determined pattern in their DNA …. they need his freedom. Recruiting them for Jesus that early? No … stay away from the children, they are still innocent & connected to Source! Don’t mess with this … Leave them alone!!

  6. I agree with you, If I had children , or any children, and a group of grown ups walked up to them any where, especially on a play ground. i would be dialing 911, to many sickos in this world, and what if i as a parent or the parents of the other children did not want them being recruited ? they have no right to talk to other peoples children about any thing.

  7. Phoebe Devereaux says:

    I back you 100%!!! As a pagan woman, my own religion has been lied about for centuries. They have maligned us for doing the same things they did, hell, they stole so much from paganism and claimed it as their own. I am so tired of being told that I’m “going to hell” because I don’t believe in the many factions of Christianity. Each of the different denominations and sects of Christianity are at war with each other, constantly putting each other down in the name of Christ, so they can’t even pull together as a religion to make the world a better place. It not only saddens me, but it also makes me sick. If they truly wish to convert others, then they really need to look in the mirror before spouting off the fear tactics used to convert others AND going after children that aren’t even of age yet to understand a word of what they are preaching. Such “recruitment” should be illegal, PERIOD. They would have an absolute FIT if pagans did it, yet it’s perfectly fine for them to. The hypocrisy is astounding.

    • earfirst says:

      Honored to be of the same human species as you, Phoebe. I heard (from the friend of hers) of a grade-school teacher in a western US state who was fired for pointing out the Native American origin of the bulk of “New Age”

  8. jerbearinsantafe says:

    Reblogged this on JerBear's Queer World News, Views & More From The City Different – Santa Fe, NM and commented:
    I know if I was a father I’d feel just like this dad…

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