The Eight Reasons Why November 6th 2012 Was the Most Significant Day in the History of LGBT Rights Since Stonewall

ImageEarly in the morning of June 28, 1969, an event took place in New York City that transformed, no, actually gave birth to, the LGBT civil rights movement.  Police raided the Stonewall Inn, as had been their habit to do, and the LGBT patronage decided that they had enough.  They fought back.  They threw trash cans and boards and stones.  Whether or not they beat the arrests of that day, they firmly stood their ground and said, “No more.  We have a right to be here.”

Late in the evening of November 6th 2012, a similar stance was taken.  This time, it was not done by throwing trash cans and overturning police cars.  It was done by overturning decades old misconceptions and assumptions.  It was done by showing up tenaciously, even though we had shown up before and lost.

In any war, there is a starter event, one in which a few select representatives of a repressed minority fights back, often with a show of violent civil disobedience.  That event lets the world know that it is now at war and the fight will continue until justice, or complete suppression, prevails.  For the LGBT community, that was Stonewall.

Then, there comes the most significant turning point event in the struggle.  It is the big battle where a winner-takes-all atmosphere hangs over the precursor of the event as a warning and a promise.  It is an event where every interested party shows up, knowing that only one side will really walk away.  It is Gettysburg.  For the LGBT community, this last Tuesday, November 6th, 2012 was our Gettysburg.  (If you think that not to be an apt analogy, check out this comparison map of the Civil War factions and today’s electoral factions.)   And we were the ones who got to walk away with the situation altered….forever.

We all knew it would be that way.  The threat the Republican Party and its anointed one, Mitt Romney, had given was clear.  If they won, they intended to roll back all our civil right gains, and probably attack ones we had not even lost in the first place.  We were angry, we asked to be defriended by those who did not respect our lives, and we declared we were not going to take it anymore.  We were ready for the fight.

Now that the smoke has cleared, I would like to offer the argument that this was more than just a “great election for LGBT people”.  This was a game changer.  The game changer.  We will never return to the level of indignity that we did before, even as we roll with the momentum to resolve the still existent inequities that plague our lives, and the lives of those like us.

The fight is not over, in fact, some of the fight may get worse before it gets better.  The anti-gay fringe will get noisier and more dangerous because the core of the anti-gay sentiment has been depleted of rationale.  The fringe has never let a small thing like rationale be an issue to stop them.

Here are the eight reasons this was the most significant event for us, and the opportunities we have as a result:

  1. The core of the LGBT Community has been transformed  We have been long supported by constituent interests groups like the Human Rights Campaign, GLAAD and others.  This election season, a new and more grass roots foundation to our community has emerged thanks to blogs and Facebook.  Our voice now goes viral and is interactive, and spreads into groups where we now have emerging allies.  We are not alone anymore.  And our allies vote.
  2. National Organization for Marriage is through.  The organization may not be gone, but never have evil spokespeople been silenced so effectively since Dorothy dropped a house on one on her landing in the land of OZ.  Gallagher and Brown can no longer effectively claim that popular opinion or state populations have “spoken”.  It is time to re-tool, and lets face it, they are out of arguments.
  3. DOMA will continue its path to non existence.  This election shores up a more friendly judiciary for years to come, and that is where DOMA will play out.  The Obama administration has also pledged to no longer defend it, and the House Republicans should follow suit, if they have any sense of preservation.  (Which arguably, they don’t.  Either way, the ultimate result will be the same.)
  4. Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is gone forever.  It was unthinkable that Romney really would bring this back, but the threat was there, and his base was pushing for it.  Ding Dong, the witch is dead. (OK, end of OZ analogies, I promise…)  If ever a DADT proponent comes to power again, this will be so long gone that it will be a complete non-starter.
  5. There will never be a Federal Amendment Restricting Marriage.  Had the election gone the other way, the tough road to an FMA might have been possible—there certainly were 2/3 worth of states who had essentially passed their own Constitutional amendments—so a Federal one was not a stretch.  With a roster of three more pro-marriage states, a constitutional amendment rejecting state, and a host of civil union/marriage equality states, the path to FMA has all but evaporated.  It will never leave the drawing table.
  6. There will be a new and gayer Republican Party.  The Log Cabin Republicans, the bastard stepchildren of pretty much everyone, have the best opportunity of their existence.  They were the unsung heroes in the downfall of DADT with their lawsuit, and they also were the voice of reason campaigning for a reasonable Republican Party Platform.  There needs to be a new Republican Party for it to survive.  The LCR can show up with the biggest “We Told You So” sign ever and work to transform the untransformable.  This would be one of the hugest contributions to the health of the LGBT community.  There is no reason we should be held captive to one party exclusively.  We should be able to trust our civil rights are respected AND choose our individual thoughts  on other issues.  So, go for it LCR, while GOProud is out doormatting for Ann Coulter, there is a Queer Eye for the Straight Party in need.
  7. LGBT issues have gone from wedge to advantage.  For years, even our best political allies pussy footed around when the going got tough.  The theory was to help them survive first, and then they would help us when they could, often avoiding actually talking about us at all.  It was such “help” from our “friends” that got us DADT and DOMA to begin with.  No more.  We are being credited as being a factor in Obama’s success.  Nobody is calling us “Baby” and putting us in a corner.
  8. Marriage momentum will continue  The conversation has started for other states, even if the legislation plan hasn’t.  Facebook has growing sites for Gay marriage USA, Oregon, Illinois, Ohio, the Midwest and others.  When DOMA fails, same sex married couples can move into non-marriage states and still have 2/3 coverage from their federal protections.  Marriage Equality has left the closet…and we just crossed the summit.  It is downhill, in a good way, from here…

I had to quit blogging last week.  I could not think of a thing to say because I could not guess what life would be like just a week later.  I knew the LGBT world on Wednesday would be a new one…. Either a better one, or a disastrous one..

I am glad we are the ones who can look over our shoulders and see the smoke of Gettysburg behind us.

The road ahead is not going to be easy… and often after a gay rights win, there is backlash, which means more irrational hate, gay bashing and bullying.  Protect yourself and the vulnerable.  No, the road ahead will not be easy.  But it’s ours.

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8 Responses to The Eight Reasons Why November 6th 2012 Was the Most Significant Day in the History of LGBT Rights Since Stonewall

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  3. We’re all in this together. If you add up all the members of all the equality sites on Facebook alone (even not accounting for duplicates), we surely number in the millions. What an army for change and progress! Well done, Rob. Keep up the great work!

  4. Michael Fabyan says:

    Thank you aim gay and support gay rights 100 percent.

  5. kzottarelli says:

    Awesome Rob. The road ahead is yours and you are right, it may not be an easy one, but I’ll be right there, walking by the side of equality, with you and so many others. I have been through quite a bit in my life and most of it hasn’t been easy, but it has made me stronger and I’d like to think, has helped prepare me for this fight. I will never stop, not until the time comes when it will not even be a thought or issue what a persons sexual orientation is, not until the day when we are all… just people!

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