Part one: reasons ten through six…the lifestyle benefits
In raising my kids, I have to apply certain moral principles—rules to live by. Most of those derive from my own sense of right and wrong, and the foundation I have. The golden rule, be willing to learn, help others, don’t judge….I pass these to my boys not because I am a Christian, which I am, but because these principles are right.
It is from that perspective that I have difficulty understanding the issue of “gay marriage” and the enormous faction of Born-again Christians against it. From my simple parental admonishments derived from the basics of Christianity, I don’t get it. Born again Christians should be at the forefront fighting FOR marriage equality, not against it.
Here are the first of ten benefits I believe Born Again Christians would derive should they support marriage equality.
Obviously, if the anti-marriage sentiment Is based on the six “clobber” verses in the Bible, the practice of citing out of context passages and claiming they are “God’s Word” without principle or logic behind them, these benefits won’t be realized. But such proof-texting is not spiritual law, it is superstition.
So. This is me… sitting down with you. Buying you a cup of coffee. Telling you that I love and respect you, that I do not think you have hate in your heart, and I don’t think you are afraid of gay people.
I am afraid for you, … and this is an intervention. You are not working in your own interest. You are, in fact on the road to demolish the things which mean the most to you. I do not want that to happen. So, I humbly offer you these ten benefits that hang in the balance on why you need to get up, out and vehemently demand the opportunity of marriage for your gay neighbor.
The 10th Most Important Reason Why a Born Again Christian Should Fight for Gay Marriage: Critical Thinking and Idealism vs. Judgmentalism You know it, and I know it. We are not to judge. Judgment is God’s.. .the Bible tells us this directly, emphatically, and frequently. It is not in some vague story, it says it point blank. There is a reason the Bible is right on this. When one judges, one stops thinking. Digging into the realities and seeing the gray areas give way to projecting our own insecurities onto others. Fight for gay marriage, and see what you learn in the process.
The 9th Most Important Reason Why a Born Again Christian Should Fight for Gay Marriage: To Save the Institution of Marriage. Marriage IS in trouble. Less people are doing it, and more people are disrespecting it. You know in your heart that same gendered people marrying in Boston or Spain has not had an effect over your personal marriage any more than easy divorces with ex-spouse, new-spouse alimony support systems resembling defacto polygamy have. But those latter marriages SHOULD be the ones that you worry about. There is a group of people heralding the virtues of marriage and honoring it…you should be supporting them.
The 8th Most Important Reason Why a Born Again Christian Should Fight for Gay Marriage: Romantic Love. Many people dream of their soul mate…that one person whose presence in your life is pure kismet…and act of God, bringing the exact right person to you who loves and adores you for who you are… who wines and dines you with flowers, music, candy and wonder. The person who is the first you want to see in the morning, and the last person you want to see at night. The spirit of romance does not thrive in some exclusivity vacuum. By supporting gay marriage when you reinforce the right to strive to be married to the person of one’s dreams, you earn the right to strive for the person of your dreams…if you have not already found them.
The 7th Most Important Reason Why a Born Again Christian Should Fight for Gay Marriage: The Good Samaritan. My sons love that story. It tells of the true hero who stepped up when he did not have to. You aren’t being the Good Samaritan. In fact, with Chick-Fil-A on your breath, you are being kind of mean. Bring back the Good Samaritan…BE the Good Samaritan.
The 6th Most Important Reason Why a Born Again Christian Should Fight for Gay Marriage: Championing for Disenfranchised Children. In a generation, people will wonder why you even bothered fighting against gay marriage—or worse, what kind of monsters you were to want to deprive gay families from having it. No one will think that you held any ideals of being for the lives of children. That is an issue that can be yours to win. Today, this minute, there are over 100,000 children in the United States that are unwanted and have not been chosen for adoption, most languishing in foster care.
So, what is my point in regard to gay marriage? Born Again Christians looking to advocate for children need to step up.
We need thousands of homes to warmly take in these children needing permanent love. Where will they come from? From all the gay couples you support marrying. So, be pro-gay marriage, and it will weave into your most effective child rescuing strategy to date.
These first five benefits would re-establish the Christian as the man or woman of warmth and compassion. The one to help make marriages work and be infused with romance. Christians would be the developers of loving families, not their adversaries. How great would THAT be?
Next up are the most important five reasons for a Born Again Christian to support gay marriage: the save-your-soul benefits.