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In Praise of the “Gay Issue Voter”

Posted on October 25, 2012 by robw77

Today a commentator named Nolan Finley wrote an Op Ed piece in the Detroit News in which he stated, “I’ve got no problem with single issue voters. If you feel so passionately about one thing, be it gay marriage or abortion or taxes, that it overwhelms all other considerations, that’s your business.” Then, he went on to criticize one “single issue voter” in particular.

He specifically addressed a Huffington Post piece by Kergan Edwards-Stout in which Mr. Edwards-Stout cordially invited people on his Facebook “Friends” list to de-friend him if they did not honor his civil rights and planned to vote for Romney.

Mr. Edwards-Stout was not alone. An actor, Max von Essen, also wrote a piece essentially doing the same thing. And I agree with both of them.

Mr. Finley obviously did not, and brought out his descrpitions to attach to Mr. Edwards-Stout: “insanity”, “close-minded” ,“intolerant” ,”nuttier”, “extreme narcissism” , “unbelievable smugness”, and “hating someone”. All of Mr. Finley’s comments were made for the altruistic purpose of not “drawing ourselves into impenetrable circles” preventing “more civil national dialogue”. Because Mr. Finley’s insults were, of course, civil. In that Ann Coulter kind of way.

That seems to be the outer limits to Mr. Finley’s understanding of the concept of “civil”, however. He does not grasp the concept in the bigger sense of Civil Rights, or the passions and sacrifices around it.

I realize that Mr. Finley comes from a place of abject entitlement. I fully understand that he does not relate to the offense the Republican party has dished out for the last year: from the heinous bully pulpits of Rick Santorum, to the ex-gay therapy practices of Michelle Bachmann, to cocky anti-gay ads of Rick Perry, to the complete unforgivable silence by the whole dais of candidates when gay soldier Steve Snyder-Hill was booed by an audience of their party members, to the gay civil rights-attacking Republican Party platform document. No, Mr. Finley does not understand why anyone would rankle under that ongoing abuse.

He also appears clueless to the fact that the Romney/Ryan policies would strip Mr. Edwards-Stout’s family of all legal protection, potentially threaten his spouse’s parental rights over their children, and that in spirit, Romney/Ryan’s philosophy would deny Mr. Edwards-Stout his children themselves.

Mr. Finley sees feelings about “one issue” as being as passionate as one can get over having to pay, or not pay, more taxes. I get that he does not care about the effect of Romney/Ryan on the lives of gay people. That is clear.

What is not clear, and what I do not get… is why he would expect Mr. Edwards-Stout to feel that way. Or, by extrapolation, for me to feel that way. It is not “an issue” for us under siege by Romney/Ryan, it is the whole foundation of our lives and equal rights. It is not “a single issue” it is our Declaration of Independence and Constitution all rolled up into one.

Mr. Finley appears very competent in rolling out insulting adjectives, so here is one for him. Through the wonder of mind-numbing self-centeredness resulting in an incredible obtuse myopia, Mr. Finley’s piece is incredibly …….Stupid.

Mr. Finley stated that he would rather talk baseball and drink beer than speculate on Facebook de-friending. So fine. In baseball terms, Mr. Finley… you’re OUT.

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Posted in Civil Rights, Hatred, News, Politics, Prejudice, US Politics | Tagged kergan edwards-stout, max von essen, max von essen. single issue voter, Nolan Finley, single issue voter | 13 Comments

A Gay Dad Sounds Off on The Ten Biggest Indecencies Thrust On Gay People

Posted on October 23, 2012 by robw77

Today a blog piece by Kergan Edwards-Stout went viral. It was a very simple but direct statement actually: If you plan to vote for Romney and rob gay people of rights and dignity, de-friend me. Like me, Kergan is a gay dad, and I think we tend to run on the same blogging bio-rhythm. A month or so ago he beat me online with a well written piece to Rupert Everett just as I had written a piece with a similar sensibility. The two were so aligned that when I read his, I found myself thinking, “wait…I haven’t posted this yet…”.

I am following his bio-rhythm again, as are thousands and thousands of LGBT people. Max von Essen made a similar appeal. The point is simple, and it is not new, and it is not even unique to us. It is the point that Peter Finch made in the movie “Network”: “We are human beings GOD DAMMIT, Our lives have value! We are mad as hell and we are not going to take this anymore.”

Why are we mad? Because for too long gay people in our society have been stripped of simple dignity and decency. We have been denied all the things that we are supposed to deserve in a country based on “Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness”. Our versions of all three of those over-riding values, pales to the level realized by our heterosexual compatriots.

In case you don’t believe me, I have compiled a little list. Not included on this list are the rights that we have been and are fighting for. Those aren’t decencies… they are RIGHTS. The fact that we have to fight for them is in itself an indecency. I am not going to put that on this list, however. You can have that one as the “starter indecency”.

So, here they are, in my opinion, from lesser to most heinous…. the ten biggest indecencies thrust on LGBT people:

10. We are defined by some people, not as humans, but as sex acts. It is why the term “homosexual” is so grating. It is often said as “homoSEXUAL” to really dig in the concept that gay people are ALL about sex. Stripped from the perception of us is that we love, feel romantic and want to partner and bond as much as any heteroSEXUAL. We are people, not sex acts.

9. We are prevented from due process and the ability to defend ourselves. Our rights are voted upon and used as pawns by Republican strategists therefore we do not get forums to stand up and defend our lives and our dignity. Early in this millennium, the aggressive Republican attack moved like a juggernaut in rural states, where there was no gay rights voice, stripping defenseless gay people of rights they had not even started to get assertive about.

8. Our relationships and futures are under constant uncertainty. Romney seems intent on stripping gay families of the “benefit” to visit each other in hospitals under dire conditions. North Carolina stripped gay families of the means to build foundations and protect themselves. Republicans threaten to amend the Constitution and divorce a hundred thousand marriages, and to force gay military back into hiding. Gay people face a tenuousness in life that no heterosexual can really imagine.

7. We are not allowed to speak for ourselves. Well, we are, but no one but us listens. In order for gay people’s case to be heard, it has to be presented by a straight celebrity or ally. Witness the pro-gay marriage ads without gay people in them. Witness the commotion of a straight man pretending to be gay who had a coming out story. Gay people do the same thing every day…without commotion. Witness gay celebrities who become spokespeople after coming out because they still carry the reminiscence of having been perceived as straight (and the longer they are out, that credibility starts to wane). We are people with lives, not people defined by “a lifestyle”. If you want to know about our lives ask US, not someone else.

6. Our families are allowed to be demonized, or to be put under their own versions of “Don’t ask, don’t tell”. What is the biggest argument against same sex marriage in state campaigns? That children will have to be educated about gay families. Here is the worst part about that argument—the pro-marriage side’s answer to that is “oh no, that isn’t true”. Like hell it isn’t. The real answer should be “we are a society, and there are different families in society, and your children need to both recognize that and accept it.” My sons have a gay dad. We should not feel like we have to hide that fact from the other kids in their kindergarten class. Do those kids need to have sex education? Of course not. They seemed to get the concept of Cinderella and the Prince being heterosexual without knowing what happened on THEIR wedding night. Our children should not be silenced as to the make up of their family.

5. Our families may not move. Marriage inequality puts us under house arrest by state. Heterosexuals can move from Boston to Salt Lake City without a single after thought. Gay families have to research the legalities, protections and vulnerabilities. We are not free.

4. We are not protected to die with dignity. The Westboro Baptist Church has declared war on gay funerals, and have for almost two decades. In the big picture, this has actually helped awareness of how awful the hate community is towards gay people. Their atrocious behavior towards the dignity of gay people was not getting enough attention however, so they changed strategy and went after fallen military heroes. The attention worked and now there is legislation in the works to prevent protests at military funerals. That is good. Those events deserve dignity and protection. So do gay people who have passed away. Where is our funeral dignity protections?

3. We are denied our religious freedom. Marriage has been denied gay people for one reason only: major religions are against it. Period. There are many that are NOT against it, however, and those religions are ignored and gutted of power. Those who enjoy religious freedom in this country are those who are in religions with money. Our spiritual and religious beliefs should be allowed to run our lives freely and without hindrance from another person’s religion—no matter how well funded that other religion may be.

2. Our lives are allowed to be characterized as a violations of others “religious freedom”. Speaking of religious freedom… when has another group in recent history been allowed to be characterized as a threat to religious freedom? There are religions who believe women to be inferior, but they are not permitted to strip away gender hiring protections. We are people. We are not violations of anything. The fact that anyone entertains that notion for even a moment is horrendous. Gay people’s rights are NOT “values issues”, they are “civil liberty issues” and deserve to be regarded as such.

And to me… the most basic, most obvious violation of decency in regard to gay people is this:

Our very existence is questioned. There is a prevalent point of view in the anti-gay and hatred community that gay people simply…do not exist. Gallup just did a dubious poll to say that 3.5% of the population will admit to being LGBT (they stated that 3.5% ARE LGBT, but we know that the closet and fear make that number to be a minimum). Even those who know we exist feel the need to ask “why?” “Are they born that way?” “Nurture or nature?” “Is it a choice?” It is beyond me why the dignified path to getting an answer is not followed. If you want to know if a person was “born” a certain way…. Ask them. Don’t ask a scientist. Don’t ask a preacher. Ask THEM. In most cases, they have a pretty good sense of the situation and will most likely tell you the truth. Better yet… don’t ask at all—accept people for who they tell you they are.

There they are, in my opinion, the ten biggest indecencies that gay people are asked to endure. Some of us are getting mad that we are asked to endure them. It is my hope that we get madder still. As mad as hell.

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Posted in Civil Rights, Family, Hatred, Living, Marriage equality, Mixing religion and politics, News, Politics, Prejudice, Religion, US Politics | Tagged gay rights, indecencies on gay people, kergan edwards-stout, mad as hell, peter finch | 24 Comments

Desiderata for the Bullied

Posted on October 21, 2012 by robw77

Yesterday I made an “It Gets Better Video” for the large company at which I work. Another friend and I got the project going several months ago, which culminated in our video shoot yesterday. We looked for others in our company who had stories to tell, and I recruited my employees for a video producer, assistant director and crew.

Lights were set up, cameras and microphones were put in place and several of us sat in front of the camera and told you how we have been in similar places to where you are today. We know the pain, and we know the anguish. We shared with you about our stories of survival. We shared about fulfilling lives that we each are grateful to be living today. Lives on the other side of the bullying experience. We want you to hear the message that it does and will get better.

My own story was about being a geeky over weight kid in junior high school who wore flamboyant 60 style clothing in a rural jeans and t shirt town. A kid whose sexual orientation was called out when the word “faggot” was etched into his locker for all the other, already hostile, kids to see. That word kept me silent for the next two years.

Not a single one of us left being in front of the camera with dry eyes. The pain was that fresh, and the feeling of wanting better for you was that intense.

In some ways, the times that we went through our bullying experiences were worse than now. No one was calling out bullying as an issue. For those of us who are LGBT, there were virtually no allies. Those things have gotten better. There are things that you have to endure that we did not, however. We were not in an environment of twitter, FaceBook and cyber bullying… and those things can make what you have to deal with so much harsher and constant. We are working to stop those things from getting to you, and you have to help us stop them from having an effect too.

There is a common denominator for all who are and have been bullied. Acceptance. In our stories yesterday most of us shared about the creation within ourselves of our own receptive self-bully. That bully is the most dangerous. He or she is the one that says that all the other bullies are right about us. Our self bully says that we actually deserve the abuse they are doling out. Yesterday, grown professional men shed tears of mourning over the still fresh wounds from those feelings that we had held at one point in our lives that we were not worthy to be here.

The bullies are wrong. All of them. The bully within is the most wrong and deluded of them all.

You are unique and beautiful and have a profound purpose here. I know that to be true. The men yesterday know that to be true. We need you to know it too. There is a quote from the Desiderata, “You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.” That quote is not just a nice saying for a greeting card. It is the Truth… and it is the truth about YOU.

There are many more stars than human beings. There are many more magnificent trees. They are each created uniquely, gloriously and magnificently. You were created with the same principles as they were. You have as much right to your place in this universe as our Sun, as the Earth, as the grandest redwood. Own that fact for yourself, today, now.

The only difference is…. When a star, or a redwood or another miracle of the universe is bullied, it doesn’t listen.

Neither should you.

It helps when you can surround yourself with others who believe in you. Instead of listening to those who don’t, find the ones who do. We are out here and as much as you are looking for us…we are looking for you.

Desiderata concludes with these words: “whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its shams, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful.

Strive to be happy”

Please.

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Posted in Family, Good Signs, Hatred, Marriage equality, News, Prejudice | Tagged bullying, desiderata for the bullied, gay, hatespeech, morale boost | 14 Comments

That’s My Family, Man

Posted on October 18, 2012 by allydavidstevens

My brother and his husband live in San Francisco. A few years ago, my 7 year-old-daughter went with her class on a trip to the deYoung Museum. Going to the big city without me or my wife, I was concerned for her safety. What if she got separated from her class? I sent her with a little cash and my brother and his husband’s phone number.

I called my bro and gave him a heads up that she would be in town. I didn’t expect there to be any problem, but I wanted to be prepared. My brother was now on alert, though actually his husband would respond if necessary, as he was working from home.

Her trip went absolutely smoothly. She was never separated from her class, and she came home happy and tired after an adventurous day. I was being an overprotective and paranoid dad, again.

But calling my brother and having him and his husband on standby had given me peace of mind. I had even run the scenario in my mind of my daughter being alone in the museum, calling her uncle, and waiting in the museum restaurant eating the food my cash had purchased her. I pictured the moment when my brother-in-law showed up: the hugs, the feeling of safety she would enjoy.

Sending my little girl off to the city, I wanted family as backup. I wanted someone who would bend over backwards and take a bullet for her if necessary.

There are those who would say that he isn’t my brother-in-law, that his union with my brother is not valid, that he is not my family. To those people I simply say, you don’t get it.

My brother and his husband are joined by love. That love extends beyond the edges of their relationship to include me and my wife and kids. My brother-in-law was willing to step up if his niece needed him, because she is his family and he loves her. My daughter, had the situation arisen, would have been overjoyed to see him, because he is her family and she loves him.

I understand that some people have deeply held beliefs that might cause them to see same-sex marriage as invalid. If you hold such beliefs and would like to discuss them with me and explain where you are coming from, I encourage you to do so, but I promise that I will challenge you and the conversation will likely go places that you find uncomfortable. If you feel the need to tell me, or my brother, or any other member of my family that my brother’s marriage is invalid, I encourage you to fuck off.

That’s my family, man, don’t mess.

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Posted in Civil Rights, Family, Gay Christians, Hatred, Living, Marriage equality, Politics, US Politics | Tagged David Stevens, Family, gay brother, same sex marriage, straight dude | 8 Comments

As a Straight Man…

Posted on October 15, 2012 by allydavidstevens

As a Straight Man...

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A Gay Dad Sounds Off on the Aspect of “Ex Gay Therapy” That No One is Talking About

Posted on October 13, 2012 by robw77

One of the most disturbing aspects of so called “ex gay reparative therapy” is the one that no one is talking about directly. Granted, every aspect stinks about “reparative therapy”. None of it is based on science, nothing about it is based on anything but the desire for one element of society to change another element of society into something they aren’t. What “reparative” “ex gay” therapy is and does, is bad. Mathew Shurka’s recent video describes it well and from the heart. We have been, and are, discussing what this practice is with California ‘s landmark new law that prevents minors from being subjected to destructive sexual orientation “reparative therapies” and the discussion has broadened to other states.

But we are not calling out and discussing who is conducting these therapies and why.

As a dad, I am in constant vigilance as to who is taking care of my kids. What are their credentials, background, references and are they SAFE? I may seem intrusive and even heartless in this pursuit for my kids’ care in health and education, but hey, these are my kids, and I am vigilant against someone doing them harm, and that is in regard to therapies that are regarded by pediatric agencies as positive.

Most who are sent to this kind of “ex gay” consultation are kids. Even if parents, ignoring pediatric experts, believed in the heinous goals of “reparative therapy”, even if they wanted the spurious results it “promises” with a parent protective mindset, they should have at least some sense of protection as to who is preying on their kids.

The subject of “recovery” is not a foreign one for me. In my twenties, I drove myself to rock bottom as a young alcoholic. I have recently celebrated over three decades of continuous sobriety. A major aspect of that sobriety is in working with others who are trying to stay sober and sharing experience, strength and hope. This is the theory by which many “ex-gay therapists” claim to operate. They present the illusion that they are “recovered” and to maintain that “abstinence”, they must work with others grappling with the same issue.

Since sexuality is not a “recovery issue”, their assertion is fallacious.

Pretending their argument has validity for a moment though, there is another huge difference between my experience and theirs that brings in even MORE concern about who they are and what they are doing. In my case, the substance of the addiction is physical. There is an actual chemical that is required in my system to get me drunk and cause a slip. That chemical has to be ingested by me to turn me back into a practicing alcoholic. That is not true in their presumptive case. Sexuality starts in the mind, and the emotions. One does not have to be performing actual sex acts to be in the depths of one’s sexuality. Seduction, fantasy, the emotion behind a touch, even the right look, all can embody the totality of heterosexual or homosexual feelings fully. I cannot embody alcoholism when I continue to be stone cold sober physically. It is why alcoholics in recovery avoid “the first drink” at all costs.

Why do these men who claim to be cured by a therapy with a dismal track record eagerly clamor to become therapists and hands-on advocates, and why are they allowed to do so? The analogy of the “ex-gay” being in recovery and working with others in need for the well being of both is a false one, even under the context they would have us believe. Their situation in analogy would be that engagement in sexual discussion and sharing about emotions is like a recovering alcoholic going on a wine tasting tour with a practicing alcoholic, swirling the wine in his mouth and spitting it out. In recovery terminology, that would not approximate sobriety, that would be a major “slip”. An “ex-gay” conducting “therapy” for someone trying to “recover” from same sex attraction is therefore not abstaining, but participating. For them, if they are truly “cured” they should be avoiding anything around homosexuality as a reformed smoker avoids a smoke filled room.

Consider this in respect to “ex gay therapists” who have been public::

Aaron Bitzer, is a plaintiff in a law suit challenging California’s new law protecting minors. He claims to have been cured of his homosexuality and rather than starting a new life avoiding homosexuality all together, he now seeks to be a therapist to discuss and listen to other men’s gay experiences.

David Pickup, a Glendale, Calif. therapist protested the new law coming into effect. He told Fox News that he’s been a member of NARTH for more than eight years after he went through his own ex-gaying treatment and now seeks out patients with whom to discuss it. Pickup stated that he’s had thousands of sexual interactions with men, but describes himself as a heterosexual man with a homosexual challenge.

Richard Cohen, author of “Coming out Straight” describes having a bisexual past in which, among same sex attraction incidents, he had a boyfriend during his first three years of marriage. His brand of “therapy” includes intimate physical cuddling as a reparative technique, claiming this intimacy to be non-sexual. (Warning to single gay men with “loves to cuddle” in your romantic wish list: Your favorite intimacy may turn your partner straight. At least, if you follow Richard Cohen’s line of thinking.)

Joe Dallas, an ex-gay leader and speaker in southern California, claims a promiscuous bisexual past. He recently shared feelings about a sole protester at a Chik-Fil-A in his blog: “I liked you immediately”. Joe apparently spent his hour-plus time in the Chick-Fil-A anti-gay gorge fest obsessing on the gay man outside with a sign rather than focusing on the family with whom he was eating protest chicken.

The list goes on.

The vulnerable participants, through external or internalized homophobia from themselves or others, seeking out this therapy, should not be subjected to individuals who are likely to be using them for some conscious, subconscious or even unconscious self gratification.

A recent article described the experience of Chaim Levin, “The turning point was in October 2008, when Levin said his “life coach” told him to slowly undress and touch himself in front of a mirror while the life coach stood several feet away. The exercise lasted about an hour, and all Levin could think about was how badly he wanted to leave the center and never go back. Afterwards, he went home and vowed never to tell anyone about it.”

Right now, nothing is really being done to stop this predatory situation under the guise of these men being “therapists”. It takes a practice that is at best wrong-minded, dangerous to self esteem and demoralizing and makes it completely traumatizing.

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Posted in Family, Politics, Prejudice, Religion, Reparative Therapy, Science, US Politics | Tagged ex gay therapy, recovery from, recovery from being gay, reparative therapy | 16 Comments

Unexpected Family

Posted on October 13, 2012 by robw77

By guest blogger Andrea Rose Free

I am 27-years-old, born and raised in Oregon, and I’m a lesbian. In school, I knew two girls a couple of grades behind me: Andrea and Mavis. I would say both girls were ‘friendly acquaintances’ but not really ‘friends’ because we didn’t have classes together and didn’t interact much. I had what could be deemed a friendship with Andrea briefly after I graduated from high school, but we pretty quickly lost touch.
Fairly recently I reconnected with both of them on Facebook, Andrea first and then Mavis.

As I reconnected with Andrea and Mavis, I went through the mental debate that many LGBT people often face: Are these ladies advocates of equality or not? I’m at the point in my life where I only want to surround myself with people who support me, which even includes people who I only interact with on social networks. I always knew Andrea and Mavis to be nice people, but that doesn’t mean they supported my right to equality. And when I had known them many years before, I wasn’t out like I am now, so I didn’t know where they stood. I had heard through the grape vine that Mavis was Mormon, and we all know that ‘Mormon’ and ‘LGBT advocate’ don’t usually go hand-in-hand. And I worried that Andrea wouldn’t be a supporter either because I knew her brother wasn’t much of an equal rights supporter.

I quickly learned, however, that Andrea and Mavis support equality. But that’s actually quite an understatement. They are the best type of supporters you could ask for. They are outspoken straight allies who are not afraid to lose “friends” because of their activism.

Their outspoken promotion of equality amazes me because it’s not something I have often experienced. Typically, when someone believes in my right to equality, they advocate in a way that doesn’t compromise their comfort. They stay safely in the background, supporting me more when we’re behind closed doors.

But Andrea and Mavis have bent over backwards to encourage me and to help promote my Facebook page Gay Marriage Oregon, and they’ve done it openly. They’ve done it even though they both know — as many of us do — many anti-equality minded folks. They know that others will be judging their support for the LGBT community, and they know they could, and likely will, receive some backlash, yet they are unwavering. They’ve helped give me the strength and the hope to continue forward in the fight for equality; they’ve given me hope in humanity. Even though we’re still getting to know each other, their support for me, for someone they hardly knew, has made them my family. They have been more encouraging and loving than my biological family and pretty much anyone I’ve ever known in my life, and I cannot even express how much that means to me.

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An Open Letter to My Heterosexual Family and Friends on National Coming Out Day

Posted on October 11, 2012 by robw77

Today is National Coming Out Day. I know this does not mean a lot to most of you, nor should it.

You have been able to take for granted that you could be who you are, and you have been able to take that for granted your entire life. Sure, you have had secrets and have revealed or kept them, some of them big harsh secrets. The majority of you have not had the world tell you to take the core of your dreams, your hopes, your every truly romantic feeling and your real vision of family and hide it away. You have been allowed, and more than that – encouraged, to be yourself and be the best of you that you can be. That is how it should be

That is not how it has been for almost any of the gay people you know.

So today is National Coming Out Day. Here is my suggestion, and request. Take fifteen minutes and think on your marriages, your relationships, your most tender romance, your social life, the looks on your friends and families faces when you announced your engagement. Think of that moment when you realized you were in love and the person loved you back. Now ponder what it would feel like to be asked to make all of that a deathly secret, hide it away, and cloak it in shame. If you do, you may have a sense of what the closet is like, and how it is less “a closet” and more a “dungeon” that some do not survive.

A few months ago, I wrote a public letter to my sons. The point of that letter was the wish that they would never have to “come out” about who they are. I want for those who still have to come out in order to be who they are fully the safety to do so, and to have the potential for the best life possible when they do.

What can you do today? Be open. Be open, so closet doors of others can open and you can lend an outstretched hand to those within. If you live in Maine, Washington, Maryland or Minnesota, you can be even more open and support Marriage Equality in those states so that others can achieve the same level of family responsibility that you can.

Those who vote against Marriage Equality are afraid. I get that. They are afraid that by letting others live fully, they will somehow be threatened, be less valued or be diminished. That is not true. Heterosexual people are not limited resources with finite compassion to share in doled out amounts. You are a spiritual force. The principle of Love is that the more you give away, the more of it you have.

Give. On this day, give. Your acceptance is a boom-a-rang that will not only touch someone else’s world, it will make yours even better.

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